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Wednesday, July 13, 2005



The midwife in the white coat is there to give the newborn his first bottle of sugar water, right? *eye roll*

I never read any of those magazines after I got a bunch of free ones at my first pregnant ob/gyn appointment. I remember on had an article like "How To Get Hubby To Handle a Few Night-Time Feedings." The article suggested promising you'd be waiting for him back in bed with some pre-pregnancy lingerie on. Written from this perspective like "girlfriend, let me give you some helpful advice." When really in just one article they've made the reader feel like: (1) she should be feeding her baby with a bottle, and not have to or want to do all night feedings; (2) her husband should be doing more, should be reluctant to do more, and therefore need coercing; (3) she should be sexy and sexually available to their husband in exchange for him helping to take care of the baby. BARF!


Hi!! I've had your blog in my favorites for over a month now. Love it!! You soooo make me smile. I am the mother of a 17 month old daughter, who is still nursing, albeit once a day. I always knew I would breastfeed and when I became pregnant, I was so surprised by how many women I came across didn't really care one way or the other. I was one of only a handful of Mommies that breastfed in the 3 (yes count them!!) different Mommies groups that I tried to attend. Yes I too could write all about the pros of breastfeeding, but I'll let you do it, after all this is your blog!! In the first couple of weeks that I was nursing, I had a few problems, but I stuck it out, knowing that it was the BEST thing I was doing for my daughter. I thought I would breastfeed until she was at least a year and am quite surprised that I still am. But I wouldn't trade it for anything. I've loved every single day and night of it.
I've heard and read some of the "untrue" things that people believe are associated with breastfeeding and am still surprised with their ignorance. Why is there soooooo much drama about THE MOST NATURAL THING in the world!! Feeding your child!! Come on. More and more women need to breastfeed proudly and publicly to show the world it's ok. It's not vulgar, disgusting or inappropriate. It's natural, loving and beautiful. Sorry for the rant!! It's the first time I've written my opinion on a blog. I'm just so tired of all the misinformation out there. To all those women who are just starting to breastfeed or plan to.....don't give up. You can do it. It's part of your womanly make up. Don't stress.....relax, drink lots of water and stay in the moment. It's about you and your baby and nothing else. Good luck to you.


This information is sure to be helpful for many new moms. I'm not sure if I got lucky, but I didn't spend nearly that much time early on nursing or pumping. That was largely due to my daughter's spending the first two weeks of her life in the NICU. While we tried nursing several times a day, she was just too tired to latch and suck, so she received all of her food through an NG tube. Thus, the hospital-grade pump became my new best friend. Thankfully, the NICU where she was admitted was very much in favor of using as much breast milk for the babies as possible, so she was able to be fed exclusively on my milk while she was there. By the time we took her home, she was taking half of her feedings by bottle (expressed milk) and half directly from me. Yet in those early days I only spent about ten minutes at a time on the pump, six to seven times a day. That's where I suppose dumb luck played a part, as I was able to pump about 8 to 10 ounces at a time by the end of her first week. And she has never nursed for more than 20 minutes at a feeding. So even in the early weeks I spent no more than 3 to 4 hours a day nursing (and probably less because I was still pumping half the time).

That was a long way of reaching the point that I'm glad to have seen this in case I have more children, so I can have your information in the back of my mind in the event that any future children don't require me to rekindle my love affair with the super pump. (I now have an Isis, which I use a couple of times a day.) So thanks for the info.

On a different but related note, I was just talking to one of the other mother's in my new parents group today, and she said she had been rather disappointed in the breastfeeding class she attended. The lactation consultant had told class participants that they would never need a pump, bottles, or a pacifier if they did breastfeeding the "right" way. Judgmental much?


Great Post! I am also looking into adoptive breastfeeding. What is your take on it? Ever see it work? I will likely be at the hospital at the time of birth (not matched yet), but it seems tricky to start then (and not my decision to make -- I really don't want to add pressure or wierdness at this time, anyway). But it seems it is best in terms of nipple confusion not to bottle feed at all, right from the start....what to do? Definitely something to think about and discuss ahead of time, at any rate...


Please ignore my question if it's dumb but I've noticed that after eating loads of onion or garlicky food my fingertips will smell of it forever - especially the onion. Isn't what one eats important also, so that the baby won't be put off? I think I read someting abt that. I really am curious, bring on the knowledge!


I wish I'd had better advice. I felt like I was pretty well-informed --- I knew I wanted to breastfeed immediately, didn't want her given a bottle, etc.

But the "lactation consultants" at the hospital I gave birth at were atrocious -- "She doesn't need to breastfeed right away! She's lazy! She just wants to sleep! You HAVE to give her this pacifier or else she'll never suck! And you have to give her the bottle after every time you try to feed her!" I knew *no one* with kids; all I knew was from books, and none of that turned out to be too helpful. To make matters worse, my daughter had a pretty severe tongue-tie, so I couldn't muddle through things on my own; she eventually had a frenulotomy and we worked with a good in-home consultant, but I never did manage to get her to latch properly.

I pumped until my supply gave out, and I know I did the best I could under the circumstances, but I would definitely do things differently if I have another one. In particular, beyond going to a facility that actually supports breastfeeding beyond just lip service, I would definitely get a recommendation for an in-home lactation consultant before I give birth; the idea of leaving the house was overwhelming to me at first, and it ended up being a lot of rigamarole and a lot of precious time to get someone knowledgeable in my home to help.


Bravo! With my 1st, I had tons of help but just could not get the hang of breastfeeding. With my 2d, I was determined. Although we had some setbacks, we have finally gotten it and I tell you, the best things that helped me the most--#1-other breastfeeding moms (gave better advice than the LC!!!!!), #2-a pump. I have the APY and love it. NExt time though, I think I will rent the hospital grade for the first month or so just to help establish my supply. And #3-having my pump break. It forced me to really give breastfeeding an effort and WHOA, what do you know! He actually took to it! :) Great Blog! I am saving this in favorites! :)


It's still very sad to me that there has to be so much judgment about breastfeeding. There are so many components to parenting, but it feels like this is the one thing that if a woman can't/won't do, she is completely villified. I wonder why this in particular is such a divisive issue. You don't see quite the same vehemence when it comes to car seats, food nutrition, or other parenting decisions that can also affect the health and safety of your child.


I also had a "lactation consultant" at the hospital whose main concern - looking back on it in retrospect - seemed to have been getting me to rent the hospital grade pump. Early on I had a nurse compliment me and the baby on how well she'd latched; two days later the hospital LC was insisting that we'd have to have a pump if we wanted to have any hope of avoiding formula. She was unhelpful in the extreme, and I can't help but feel like she scared me off trusting my instincts in BF when I was feeling vulnerable; today I pump nearly exclusively and supplement my lowish supply with formula...hopefully, if there's a next time, things will be different.


It's me, the Berkeley anonymous poster again. You mentioned the Isis pump, and I have a question that I don't know who else to ask. I'm currently breastfeeding a 13 pound 4 month old, who gets no other food. She eats 6 times a day.

A couple of days a week, we're apart and I pump for 2 or 3 of her feedings. I'm using an Isis, and it's a little faster than she is (she's down to about 10 minutes on a side now, and I can get 4 or 5 ounces in 15-20 minutes with the Isis, but it doesn't need burping). I've heard that for regular use, I ought to be getting a more expensive pump...why?

Am I hurting my nipples with the Isis? Am I going to hurt my wrists?

I don't have particularly sensitive breasts, and I'm not sure I've ever felt the famous let down, so if I'm hurting my breasts I might not notice.

On the other hand, I do have a small puffy black streak (like a bruise) on the bottom of each nipple, in the same place where my baby bit me up badly in the first week, before we had the latch figured out. The nipples have mostly healed, but those bruise spots haven't gone away. Could they be related to using the Isis for more than it's intended?

What do you think?

I'd leave a name, but I don't want anyone to be able to google me and find breastfeeding questions when I'm looking for a job...and I'd leave an initial, but it's E, and that's the initial you use to refer to your first daughter...

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