The dating site I favor has an option for your status regarding children: you can choose has 1 child, has children, likes children, likes children bu doesn't want any, or dislikes children. You can also choose to not choose in which case N/A shows up in the field.
This site also has a blogging tool. Which believe it or not I've never taken advantage of. Until today, when I wrote something for the blog that I will first post here. Tell me what you think. I may just post it anyway, because I'm due for a good digital sparring match.
It's something I continue to run up against: how can I have 0% enemy with someone who chooses "dislikes children" in their profile?
I can certainly sympathize with not *understanding* children, I didn't understand children at all and avoided them at all cost until I had my own. even now, I'm not overly fond of *all* children. I'd be the last person to sugarcoat parenting or idolize the childlike mind. on a date with me, you'll only hear about my kids if you specifically ask. and I'm not the type to whip out pictures (although i carry a few at all times. phones are good for that).
but a blanket "dislikes children"? come ON! save your "dislike" for something truly evil.
*you* were a child once, and I don't care what your memory (or your mommy) tells you, you were a fucking brat for a significant amount of time because most kids are. the people you annoyed are *legion*. and you know what else? those people who you annoyed to pieces might be depending on the taxes *you* contribute to pay for their social security. it all comes full circle eventually.
and when you're old, you might be dependent on the goodwill of people who are now the children who you *actively dislike*, so you end your days in a care facility that doesn't leave you lying helpless in your own feces for hours on end. (think it doesn't happen? you've never been to St. Agnes in Philly then). you won't be able-bodied and young forever. someday you might be (gasp!) dependent.
the child in the checkout line behind you might invent a medication that saves your life. the kid throwing a fit in the post office might one day be wiping your ass in a nursing home. think about that before you're so careless with your "dislike".
don't want to have you own children? FINE! please don't, then! don't want to meet mine? GREAT! the chance was remote anyway. but step off the hate. it's not doing you or anyone else any favors. N/A will get the point across just fine.