I have been avoiding the comments on Julie's adoption post because I knew what they would contain. Ignorance enough to make me angry for a year. Today I finally went and read them after seeing what Lisa V and Marisa had to say.
I have one things to say:
IF SHE'S STILL CHOOSING, SHE'S NOT A BIRTHMOTHER. She's a mother. Plain and simple.
This label is so damaging when applied too soon.
to address the post itself:
My own choosing process was pretty much meaningless; when I saw their profile I knew it was them I wanted. I could have easily rationalized any of my objections away. Why? Because there was a photo of the father playing horse with a whole bunch of kids on his back, and something about what he was doing and the look on his face reminded me of my dad.
So you really never know.
P.S.- Remember the last time I posted an angry trackback to a major blog? Remember what a mess that was? Such fun! It's nice to know that won't happen again. People won't be so surprised to hear a birthmother pipe up, now that we number in the double digits in the blogosphere ;)